About Me

 

About Me – originally posted Feb. 27, 2013

 

My Introduction –  updated 10/26/14

First, thank you for visiting my blog and being curious about me, my poetry and art.  So hello, and let me introduce myself.  My name is Lynn McHale; I’m 63, divorced for 30 years, retired in Sept. 2012 from Sears Holdings after 41 years.  I have a son and daughter in-law, no grandchildren yet. I have a wonderful family, friends and neighbors who are all very supportive.

I love nature, watch the weather, play bunco and game night each monthly with neighbors, love to decorate (helped three friends do some redecorating), and love to see plays (subscribe to Broadway series at the Paramount). An updatea friend of mine who recently retired and I just signed up for a bus trip to Niagara Falls and Toronto in spring 2015.  I’m looking forward to it, but also little nervous about the travelling with Parkinson’s and my balance issues.  I’m hoping it works out well!

My Background 

Cancer

In 2005, I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer.  I underwent chemo-therapy, a lumpectomy with nodes removed and radiation. I thought I had waged the toughest battle of my life; I had survived breast cancer and was now busy living my life.  I am still cancer free today and very grateful for the last 9 years!

Parkinson’s

In 2011, I was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease, which absolutely devastated me.  I had already fought and survived breast cancer.  I couldn’t possibly have a degenerative brain disease!  I didn’t deserve to have this happen to me!  I was very angry, frightened and in despair. I remember telling someone that this was the “kiss of death.”  I had great difficulty wrapping my head around this diagnosis, and when my coping skills were depleted, I realized I needed professional help.

I sought help from a neuro-psychologist over the course of several months.  He helped me re-frame how I thought about having PD and living with a chronic illness and most importantly how I perceived myself.  In the safe confines of his office, I could be brutally honest.  I didn’t have to be guarded when I described how I was feeling.  I didn’t have to soften the message or try to hide things to protect and shield my family and friends. It was finally OK to tell people at work.  I had only told my Director and VP and select few others.  It was OK to be really, really angry. It was OK to hate everybody and everything!  It was OK to cry, even to laugh!  Keeping it all to myself had become such a burden, which now was lifted.  Most importantly, I did not have to pretend to be strong; I could sit there and be just me, all my raw emotions exposed, learning how to be Lynn, who happens to have Parkinson’s.   I went back again about a year later for a few weeks, for what I call a “tune up” or “attitude adjustment”, as I feel I will always experience ups and downs, and sometimes the downs just need to be talked through. I highly recommend counseling for learning how to accept and cope with living with PDAn update, as I thought I might need “tune ups” from time to time, I did see my neuro-psychologist in spring of 2014 for about 6 sessions.  Once again, good to go! (sort of)

I should mention that I did see two separate psychologists when I was battling cancer, both of whom had very different approaches and I liked very much.  That being said, coping with Parkinson’s has been more difficult.  With cancer, I’d either survive or die.  With Parkinson’s, the “unknown” taunts you each day.  It’s coping with this “unknown” that takes you to the edge (not ledge) at times and can mess with your mind (we already know about issues there).

Support Group Programs 

Within a month of diagnosis, I joined a support group and tried to get in some exercise while still working full time (you know how well that worked).  Fifteen months later, I decided to retire a little earlier than planned so I could concentrate on my health and attend exercise classes.  I now exercise at the Healthplex 3-4 days a week in both land and water exercise classes (some classes just for Parkinson’s).

Our Movement Disorder Program is blessed by the generosity of an anonymous sponsor who’s endowment  funds all the exercise classes (4 land and 1 water exercise classes per week), art therapy classes, Introduction to Parkinson’s classes for newly diagnosed, monthly support meetings at two locations, newsletter, and dinner with doctor evenings a few times a year.  All of the above is offered free to people with Parkinson’s in the area.  It is “best in class!”  I am truly fortunate to be able to have this program so close and to participate in it.

My Poetry

I have been writing poetry for about two years now.  My writing comes from needing to get my feelings and emotions out of my head.  This helps me frame up and clarify all the emotions and thoughts colliding and crashing into each other in my head. Initially, I started writing about my anger, frustration and fear I had about Parkinson’s.  Over time, my writing transitioned, focusing on other aspects of life that I enjoy, or observe, or think about; such as a word or phrase I find interesting.  Some are very personal and were written and intended just for me; but now I would like to share them. Some poems have meter and rhyme, others free style.  It just depends on how I feel about the subject when I’m writing.

I joined a writers’ group at the public library, where I share my poetry and receive feedback from other writers, helping me to improve.  I even read one of my poems for an on-line segment of the library’s writers’ group magazine. That really stretched my comfort zone!  I submitted my poem “White Weather Inhabitants” in Illinois State Poetry Contest for Emerging Poets in 2013.  I did not win, but it was something I never dreamed I would do, and it was exciting just the same!  An update, I haven’t been attending for some time as I was working on my blog setting it up.  I intend to start going again.

My Art

My support group offered art therapy classes last year and continues this year.  I felt inspired doing art projects and sharing the interpretation with the other participants. Time seemed to stand still, not matter. I found myself immersed in concentration and creation.  That inspired me to start taking art classes: beginner drawing, colored and water color pencil,  acrylic painting and a jewelry class at a Pinot and Painting establishment (wine and appetizers included!!),  mosaic classes, botanical  leaf printing classes, and few others. To my delight, I discovered I was quite good and thoroughly enjoyed myself.   I never had the time prior to retiring to indulge myself in any art classes. Who knew I’d love this new discovery so much! An update, I am still taking watercolor art classes on a regular basis and have improved.  Some pieces turn out better than others, but I enjoy the classes and the other women in the classes.

My Stride

It took me about 9 months into my retirement to figure out what activities I truly enjoyed, what other activities I wanted to explore, and where, how and with whom I wanted to invest my time and energy.  I was learning how to achieve the balance in my life between Parkinson’s related activities and what I call the “other parts of my life”.  My poetry and art reflect the balance I found that allows me to live in peace with my Parkinson’s.  An update, with my involvement in APDA Midwest Chapter I am struggling with balancing all my activities and taking care of myself.  It is hard at times, still trying to find that balance.  There are many instances where I feel I put my own needs after other commitments, and to be honest I am struggling with that. 

My Involvement with PD

I am involved with the American Parkinson’s Disease Association (APDA) Midwest Chapter as Board member.  An update, in Sept. 2013 I became Treasurer of the Board and May 2013 asked to Chair the Walk. I had never organized a big fundraising event before, and am proud to say we more than doubled our goal of $25,000.  It was quite a success.  I also designed the Walk T-shirt, which I posted on blog. I also was asked this summer to take over the newsletter. I enjoy being a part of this organization and helping others through the education, activities and services we provide both locally and nationally. We plan and hold an Educational Symposium each April, a Walk to raise funds for research in September and membership drive in fall.  We train support group leaders once a year.  We provide respite care for caregivers who are members of APDA and meet requirements.

My Purpose

My purpose for this blog is to share my poetry, artwork and photos.  I hope that by seeing how my poetry and art helped me as a means of coping with the day to day ups and downs of living with Parkinson’s, it may help or inspire you to look at life and living with PD differently.

I’ve been writing for two years now, so I have many poems to share and post.  I will post several poems for the launch of my blog, and then I’ll post weekly on Sundays. At times, I may just share some thoughts with you.

I encourage you to start writing whatever and however it comes out!  It does not have to be good, or rhyme or even make sense to anyone else.  It only has to make sense and serve its purpose to you.  Even with doing some form of art, just do it for fun and for yourself.  If it gives you pleasure and makes you happy, and takes your mind off things, then that is great!

Please feel free to comment.  I really want to know if a poem or photo has touched you in any way, or even inspired you. I will respond to your comments.

My Hope

My hope is that you will be inspired by something or someone that helps you cope with living with Parkinson’s.

My hope is that you will explore and discover some aspect of yourself, maybe for the first time, or re-discover yourself again.

My hope is that in time, you will find balance and beauty again in the world around you and live in peace with Parkinson’s

My hope is that you will see yourself as I now see myself:

I am Lynn, who happens to have Parkinson’s,

Not a Parkinson’s patient, who happens to be Lynn.

Yes, that being said, I work daily to achieve this state of mind.  Some days it is much harder than others.  It will always be a challenge, but at least I feel I have the tools to work with when I need to pull them out.

I have lots of visual stimuli around the house to encourage and remind me!!!

 

Thank you!  This was a lot to read, thanks for hanging in there!

My hope is for you to enjoy my blog.

Lynn

 

 

 

8 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Lynn – I had peeked and read a bit before, but finally had a moment to read more and comment. Thank you for opening yourself up to us and others in this way. Your writing is so lovely and heartfelt. I look forward to reading more and following your blog. Congratulations on this launch, and thank you again for being so courageous to share this and help others.

    • Kristi – Thank you for finding the time to read my blog and comment. Your very kind and supportive words mean a great deal to me. You and Jen (except for Betty) were the first neighbors I told I had PD at Teri’s Christmas party, if you remember back a couple years. I’m glad you enjoyed my writing!

  2. Hi Lynn,
    Congratulations on your new blog! You should be so proud! I found it without a problem and started reading. I’ll be back to check in on it every couple of days. Thank you for sharing. And again, congratulations!

    • Marge – Thanks for celebrating with me and reading my blog, I really appreciate your support and our new friendship. I really look forward to having more fun outings once you retire!!

      • Dear Lynn, You really touched my heart. And although I can never imagine all you are going through, I get a true glimpse by reading your blog and your deeply expressive poems. I am sure your blog will touch all those who read it, and give hope to other PD individuals, and actually anyone who is burdened by disease. Your example of getting your feelings out and working through them, as well as finding a way to help others while finding the joy in life, is truly a blessing. I commend you my friend for your bravery and your willingness to reach out and help others so unselfishly, even though you are suffering. You are an amazing, lovely woman, and I pray all the joy and blessings you bestow on others come back to you 100 fold!

      • Mary Anne – Your support and encouragement expressed so beautifully in such heartfelt words brought me to tears. Thank you for reading my blog and taking the time to understand what I was trying to describe and relate about PD. It means a great deal to me that you have taken such an interest in my writing and that you “get” it!! Thanks for being my friend and I look forward to more time together and doing fun things.

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